It always puts you in a difficult position, talking about gender or sex. Anything that talks of gender disparity is controversial, it calls for such hatred it could bury the author with deep goring glares. And specially when the author belongs to the fairer sex of which patriarchy is so smitten by but also scared of at the same time. Sometimes I wonder, what is it that intimidates them so much; our powerfulness or their very own powerlessness, our eager-beaverness and being the Jhonny on the spot or their skulkiness, our ability of independence or their need of dependence. Men know that women are self sustainable and if given a chance can rule the world better. I guess that’s what makes them so full of hate and malice towards the opposite sex; the fear of loosing their power and supremacy and they attempt to make their slippery crown stay on their head by suppressing us physically, mentally , emotionally and psychologically; by referring to us as downtrodden, oppressed and weaker sex.
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While this hurts -as men are conditioned for this from the very start- what hurts more is the fact that women also sometimes help them in this pursuit of men, that women also pull women down, that their jealousy makes them stoop to the lowest level of tyranny and hegemony. I pity such people -specially women- for their inability to see and understand that they’re all in the same boat -whatsoever- of downfall.
As women, one should uplift each other, one should support each other. I don’t expect the same from men and the patriarchy as they’ve been conditioned to not understand the condition of women, but from fellow ladies who are living the same oppressed life. Change is a gradual process, and it happens with collective effort. If you cannot initiate, atleast support someone in their initiative. Don’t force them to stay at your level. Don’t shake hands with the opposition and keep pulling each other down. Instead lift each other up. Watch each other’s backs. It took us 100’s of years to reach today. Change takes time. You have to be consistent in this effort and be patient with this process. You have to be resilient and stand together as each other’s pillar of support.
Last modified: March 23, 2020
